Take Courage #MondayMotivation
I work with many people and the greatest impediment to their confidence is a lack of courage. We are plagued with a fear of:
- Rejection - We all want to be loved and accepted. We want to belong and to feel like a valuable part of our social circles. It is hard to stand up for truth when you know you will be ridiculed or mocked. It is a very real and understandable fear but it is a fear that can be overcome!
Inadequacy - The fear of not being enough or not being up to par with everyone else is a fear that I know all too well. This daunting fear can cripple and paralyse you if you let it. The fear of inadequacy can stop you from living your life. But take heart: You are enough. You are more than enough! Our inability to be super woman or do it all doesn’t make us inadequate but makes us real. It shows us our limitations and that's a beautiful thing. You are uniquely made and all together lovely. God cannot imagine the world without you. Take a second to let that rest in your heart. We have to make choices: we can say no to things! In saying NO to some things, we are saying yes to other things. So make your YES count!
I find the best way to reach anyone is to live as authentically as possible - being real and true in all that you do is key to being a good witness to God's love. We need to be strong and vulnerable in order to build each other up. Our femininity demands us to be brave and to be receptive to truth, goodness and beauty. It is stamped in us from the beginning. As ladies, we too need to encourage the men in our lives to be brave with little acts of chivalry and kindness. We need to build a generation of courage.
We live in a culture that focuses our energy on hiding behind social media to talk to others. We cover ourselves with filters and different personas to seem more interesting out of fear of rejection. But this is hurting our capacity for authentic intimacy. An emoji cannot convey what we really feel. A GIF cannot contain our emotion. Only we know what we mean and social media can misconstrue our words and distort them. We need to verbally talk to men and women, either by phone or in person to get confidence and build relationships based on truth and love. I agree that social media is a wonderful tool to stay in touch but it should not be the ONLY tool to build communication and friendships.
- I challenge you to make a list of 25 things you like about yourself. I know a list of 25 things you don't like about yourself seems like a breeze but I ask you to reflect on 25 qualities you value in yourself and take this list to prayer. I personally did this journal exercise last week and experienced a lot of healing from it. I hope it provides the same healing for you.
- This week, I am encouraging you to communicate with others only in person, or talking over the phone. No socializing over text, messaging and snap chats will show you the beauty that comes from a face to face conversation that is unfiltered, un-photoshopped and authentic! I believe this will give confidence and show you how valuable you are in a relationship. We need to build a culture of courage and authenticity - let us start today!