Rising Above Insecurities

Women in the world today are greatly insecure. Female insecurities have become all to common; self put-downs, cutting, eating disorders, you name it. I was one of these women.

For so long I struggled with insecurities: what I wore, my makeup, my accomplishments, my merit. For so long I desired applause or reward for what I did. The message “love yourself” and “feel good about yourself” was repeated to me but no matter how many times I was told, I could not love myself. Why? This modern solution, the message of self esteem, didn’t help me overcome my female insecurity long term. This solution presented is all about the self. Self-love, self-acceptance, and self-promotion. Love yourself. Feel good about yourself. Be true to yourself. You only live once.

Jesus tells us, “If anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me” (Luke 9:23), and “He who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of me” (Matt 10:37).

Sister, this is the answer to insecurity. Throwing ourselves at the feet of Jesus and letting him become the center is the answer. In her recent post Amelia Picardo tells us that if we throw ourselves at the feet of Jesus, “you will see your life transform; transform from selfishness into selflessness, from helplessness into hopefulness”. Yes, it is important that as women we know the Truth of who we are, that we love ourselves, that we know in the depth of our being that we are valuable, redeemed children, that our Father sent his one and only son for our salvation. But when we make “feeling good about ourselves” the centre of everything, we quickly take our eyes off Christ and become wrapped up in self.

It may seem hard to believe that self-denial could help us females overcome insecurity. But when we take the focus off ourselves and instead become consumed with Jesus, our personal insecurities will melt away. We no longer will look to our own beauty and merit to find security, but we will look to Christ and his beauty.

In a recent encounter with insecurity, Jesus spoke to my spirit. “Why are you entertaining thoughts of insecurity? Turn your eyes back to me”. In that moment Jesus revealed to me that not only then, but many times I had made insecurity my prison and the only way to get out of it was to fall in love with Him. Now, in moments of insecurity I turn my eyes back to Jesus and I ask for God’s Spirit to remind me of the Truth of who I am. And just as quickly as insecurity rears it’s ugly head, it fades away.

Charles Spurgeon said, “If a soul has any beauty, it is because Christ has endowed that soul with His own, for in ourselves we are deformed and defiled! There is no beauty in any of us but what our Lord has worked in us.” Spurgeon put it so well, we do not actually have any beauty or goodness of our own doing (Psalm 14:3, 53:3) The only beauty we can ever have is the beauty of Jesus that is within us. As John the Baptist so beautifully said, “I must decrease, but He must increase (John 3:30).

If you battle with insecurity, here is my encouragement to you: remember that our heavenly Father sent his one and only son Jesus to redeem you from your sins. Remember that as his redeemed child the beauty of Christ lives within you and your vocation as a daughter of the heavenly King is not to remain insecure, but to let his love flow around you to everyone you meet.

A woman who is in love Jesus Christ glows with a beauty that overpowers even the most noticeable of flaws. I know many godly women who bring joy and light to an entire room with their presence! No matter what a woman’s physical flaws might be, they are unnoticed when Christ is center of her life. We will only gain lasting security when we look away from ourselves and toward Him. The question “who am I?” is not nearly as important as the question, “who is He?”! Let’s make an effort to discover the beauty of the One who redeemed us.

Food for thought: If you are you ready to discover the beauty of Christ and make it your own, if you are finally ready to live like the redeemed precious child, daughter, and princess of God then join me in arming ourselves with something that will set us free. When thoughts of insecurity or low self worth creep into your mind and spirit read some of these scripture verses:

  • “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”  Romans 8:1 NASB
  • “You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9
  • “In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace” Ephesians 1:7