Timing is Everything

Timing is everything. I heard that in a song once while I was watching Country Strong. I remember when I first saw the movie and heard the song I was thinking to myself “wow, it is so true time is everything, everything will happen at the right time.” To put it into perspective now, I think God’s timing is everything, not my time or when I desire it, but HIS time.

For instance I am beginning my last year of undergraduate studies. This year, God has planned a busy schedule for me! However, this entire summer I have been asking “God what am I to do with my life after? What comes next? What is my vocation?” I have been lacking the patience to simply wait for September and carry out what He has planned for me in this last year, let alone have a summer of tranquility! NO, instead I am already thinking and planning for the future, my place in the Church, and when will I get married, that is if I get married and so on. I am full of worries and anxieties about tomorrow and forgetting to enjoy today. It must be frustrating for Him to have to witness the lack of patience and the rush that we have to get to the end of the journey. Meanwhile, through friends and different sources, God has been trying to tell me to slow down. He is not telling me, but rather shouting out to me: THE TIMING IS NOT RIGHT YET! I have been so preoccupied in finding the answers that I got lost in the search and forgot to nourish my friendship with Him.

So, why is it that we are in such a rush to get to the end, to know all the answers? Speaking from experience I think that it is because we are afraid of what the future holds, so we lack trust in God. I for one was afraid to know the answers. I remember once I heard a priest preaching and he said, “Have you considered that it is not about the end of the journey, but about the journey itself, in which God wants to teach you, prepare you for what He has in store. If God had told Abraham about everything he would endure right then and there, Abraham would probably have had a heart attack and said “no thank you!” This thought stuck with me. Yet here I am worrying and being anxious about things that are yet to come. This is why God’s timing is perfect. He knows how much we can handle, how mature and capable we are, and knows exactly when the fruit is ripe for the harvest. However, many times we think we know more than God himself and we want to accelerate the process. This is due to our vanity, lack of humility and pride since we assume that we know more than He who created us. Yet He continues to love us and His patience endures.

Believing that God’s time is an inconvenience to our plans is a common misunderstanding. For instance, my aunt passed away despite being young and healthy. Yet her time to go was predetermined by God. This was a painful time for my family as we pondered why this had to happen. Due to our sorrow and pain, we failed to see the fruits that God wanted to produce from this sad event. We asked the wrong questions and failed to thank Him. You might ask “how can you thank God for pain and sorrow and suffering?” Well isn’t that what He did while He carried the cross? Didn’t Jesus say many times, “the time has come, or the time is not yet come”. For example, in his first miracle in the wedding feast of Cana He told his mother: “Woman, why do you involve me? My hour has not yet come” {John 2:4}. Jesus is our role model since He trusted the Father’s will and accepted His timing with open arms. Jesus was patient and waited until the time appointed to him to carry out the biggest act of love. I realized it must have been nerve wracking for Christ to have to wait. But Jesus trusted the Father so much that he never questioned or anxiously tried to get the answers, He simply patiently waited. This is what He expects from us, complete trust and surrender of ourselves, so that when the time comes He will reveal to us what is to come and what cross we must carry.

I know that for me, I have never been good with time; I have always lacked the patience to wait or to listen. Yet I have to be willing to entrust everything to him. There is a time for everything and everyone. Just look at nature – every living thing has a time to blossom, to ripe, to mate, and to sleep. In our lives there is a time for growth, a time for sorrow, a time for happiness, a time for stillness, a time to explore. God made us perfectly, to know and trust in HIM.

There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
     a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
     a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
     a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
     a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.
(Ecclesiastes 3)